How processing the past year can help you in the new year

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The end of the year can be a tad bit emotional. But this doesn’t need to be a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite helpful. We don’t want to stay there for too long of a time but processing through it can give us perspective and clarity on moving forward in the new year.

Here is the process I’m going to be taking you through: Reflection, Regret, React, Retreat and Resonaite. If you’re thinking “wow this sounds challenging and real”….it is!  If you want to move forward then you need to get super honest about where you have been and what needs changing.


Think about what worked and what didn’t work for you this past year. Read through your journals, ask your kids what they thought mommy did and didn’t do well (in appropriate age level mommy language) and look for other ways to measure how well you did. Reflecting can be a very helpful tool. It can show you what you need to work on and what you need to get rid of. It can also show you how incredible you were and give you confidence in the growing areas of your life. Click To Tweet


Let’s be totally honest…nobody likes the feeling of regret. Whether it’s something you didn’t do or something you did do and it cost you big time.  Regret proves you have a heart and that you care. The positive side of regret, is that it reminds us of what truly is important to us. Whenever someone has sat in regret, they have thought about what they could have or should have done differently. Regret can be used towards change in the New Year. It can inspire you to change and do things differently.


The past year can leave us reacting. We were made with emotions but we weren’t made to abuse them.  Reactions can make us aware of our current state.  How did you react over the course of this last year?  Did they help you or another person grow or find wholeness?  How you react on a daily basis shows how stable you are.   Your reactions show the condition of your heart.


Pulling back isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite a good thing. Sometimes we desperately need to.  Our world is filled with so many distractions and things that vie for our attention.  Too much can overwhelm a person, cause exhaustion and get you lost. When we retreat, we give our self time to breathe, rest and take a step back to recharge.  This gives us  the energy we need for the things and people we love.


When you resonate with something, you feel and can sense it without an explanation. Being able to resonate gives you direction. It allows you to feel whether something could be an opportunity for good. I’ve put this as the last step in the process because it is the transition piece. If our state of being is healthy and whole we are able to resonate on the path we are to take.

I no doubt believe you are able to process through and come out even stronger in this new year. You have everything you need to make it a great one. Believe in yourself, stay humble, choose to care for yourself and even more importantly, to love others. You were made to thrive and come out even stronger in this coming year. Now let’s go brave this new year together.

Be blessed and bless others,

❤Coach Dani

11 thoughts on “How processing the past year can help you in the new year

  1. This is going to take a while…haha. But seriously, very good points. It’s super tough to dig deep, but then again super necessary and helpful. Best wishes to you in the New Year!

  2. I love what you said about regret and why it’s important to look back at it. Like you said it helps look back at what we should have done better or said better in other to prevent it in future and make us better people.

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