We live in a world where dating can be overwhelming and a big project. There has never been an easier way or time in history to date then now. Online dating, social media and meetup groups make it easy for someone to go on a date. Here is the thing though, if you’re serious about finding “the one” the dating scene can be atrocious. You have a wide variety of people with different goals, personalities, values and character. Being super picky and intentional is your aim, if you want to “find the one.”
I have created 5 dating questions to get you started on your journey
No matter if you use the ones I suggest in dating or come up with your own, I think it’s important to go beyond just asking simple and boring questions. It gives you no insight into a persons character, values, personality, passions or goals. Get specific without being overwhelming and make it fun and interesting.
Question #1: What are the top 3 things that are most important to you?
This question gives you insight into their heart and shows you the kind of person that they are. If they can expand on why it’s important, this question can be so helpful. It doesn’t have an interview type of vibe to it, not too overwhelming of a question and it is specific on what the other values. If these 3 generally don’t line up with your top 3 you should definitely say bye bye (baby Grinch voice)video0.3gp
Question #2: What sets your soul on fire?
Meaning what are you most passionate about? Many people who are ambitious or driven will get excited to share this. It will come across in a positive expression and with how much they open up about what they are passionate about.
On the other hand, if a person isn’t passionate about anything they will be dull. They wont have much to say and will not talk with positivity and joyful expressions.
Find a dating partner who carries close to your same passionate temperature. This will help you both build on your potential relationship. Click To Tweet It will give both people the drive and support needed at times of struggle or frustration.
Having similar passions, make it easier to spend time with the person you are dating and it can bring a deeper connection. It’s also good to have some passions that are not the same. This makes it adventurous and helps both people get the challenge they need to grow.
Question #3: If you were given $1,000, $10,000 and over $50,000 what would you do with it?
I wish I could fully take the credit for this question but my best friend is the one that asked me this question. I was like “girl that is the perfect first date question.” Then she proceeded by throwing in some humor and taking a bow. The benefits of asking this question, is that you can know how they deal with money, what they find worth in and give you direction on the kind of relationship they have with money.
Question #4: Where do you spend most of your time?
People value most their time or at least they really should. It’s the one thing you will never ever get back. Asking this question to your date will allow you to see the kind of partner they will be. If they spend most of their time at work, it may show you that they find aspects of their job impactful or if they have a job that is demanding. Throwing in a “why?” is beneficial as well. It will give you added insight into the bigger picture. Maybe their focus right now is on making money so that they can be financially free for the future. Delving into the why will give you clarity.
Question #5: What qualities do you like most about yourself?
On so many levels this will show you the type of man or women you are out on a date with. If they have a hard time coming up with qualities, it may be that they are unaware of who they truly are or they are insecure. Secure, confident and self aware people wont be braggy but they will respect themselves, have some self awareness and be able to give an honest and respectable answer. If you find the person overly abundant in their words of how wonderful they tell you they are, be cautious. Bragging can showcase an inflated ego that may not be telling the real truth and is only seeking to flatter you.
Be sure to throw in your own style and personal flair. Be your genuine self and let your date feel at ease. Dating doesn't have to be so much stressful work. Patience is key. Take the time to get to know someone and see how they do life. Click To Tweet The great thing about this, is that- you get to see all sides of a person. When life happens you can see how they deal with adversity and treat people in the process.
Be blessed & bless others,