Let your actions speak

We have heard the saying “Actions speak louder than words.” This statement has been a saying that I have learned to grasp and relate to on many levels. Actions, what we do, sends a clear message to those around us.

What are we portraying to those around us? What message(s) are they hearing from our non-verbal communication? This is important to think about. If we don’t, we can find ourselves surrounded by the wrong people in our lives, wondering why they mistreat us, cross our boundaries and degrade our values.

Something as simple as what clothes you wear, how you decorate your house or office or the way that you carry yourself and how you talk to people. These all send an honest message of the person you are.

For this reason, we need to be intentional with every aspect of our lives. We do not need to be on guard or worried about what someone will think of us, based on every decision we make. We are human and we make mistakes. However, we need to be intentional with portraying to people our real self. If we make a mistake, we own it, we sincerely apologize for it using words and a kind gesture. Then we move on to hopefully never make the same mistake over.

We need to know who we are, love who we are, and accept who we are. This is a tough one in a world where acceptance and belonging are important to us. Not everyone is going to like or appreciate us.

Don’t compromise who you are! I think we have all at some point in our life compromised and settled for something or someone in order to feel some sort of “goodness.” In the end, it just leaves us feeling a little less confident and a little more needy.

You set your standards, stay disciplined and hold yourself accountable to be better and do better. That looks different for everyone. What is going to get you to the point of setting standards, staying disciplined and holding yourself accountable?

Tony Robbins has this quote that I remind myself  of often. He says “progress makes us happy.” We don’t have to put pressure on ourselves to be perfect. However, we do need to put pressure on ourselves to make steps forward. What are you doing today that will pull you forward in your future?

Let your actions speak a message of love, beauty, value, truth and kindness. Let your actions say to people “I am amazing and I believe you are too.”

I am Enough

I am enough. You are enough.  We are enough.   With my whole heart, I mean this.  The relationship you have with yourself is utterly important. It will determine how emotionally, physically and spiritually happy you are. It will determine the path you take, as well as who you attract.

You do not have to be anyone else but you.  If you feel like you have to change for someone in order for them to accept or love you then you have already lost yourself.  Embrace the uniqueness of who you are.  Nobody in this entire world gets to be you!

Not everyone is going to like you for you and that’s okay. It’s a hard truth for the perfectionist and the people pleaser to grab ahold of.  We all have different passions, opinions, goals, and personalities.  Sadly, this can drive a wedge between people.  When we automatically judge people and don’t give them a chance, we ruin a potentially great opportunity to know them.

In my lifetime, I’ve had some pretty incredible people encourage, challenge and support me. If I hadn’t been open minded about getting to know them, despite our differences, I would have never gotten the chance to know them. They have been vital parts to my growing and maturing process. Never discount someone when you haven’t taken the time to get to know them.

Not every person deserves your attention. The start of a new friendship or relationship can be a little tricky. The key is asking good questions and seeing what they are all about.  You are enough. If any person tries to get more out of you when it goes against your values and who you are, that is a clear indication that they don’t deserve your attention.

To be fully known, understood and loved for every part of you, weaknesses and all shows the maturity of a person.  They see the positivity even in the negativity.

Not convinced? Think of one of your weaknesses. How has it worked in your favor? I’m sure that if you dig for perspective, you will find that your weakness has helped you in some way.

There is a quote by one of my new found favorite youtubers Joshua Eze. He says that “when a door closes, that is Gods redirection not rejection.” When you look at it that way, it is much easier to be grateful for the life you have now. You could have walked through a door that wasn’t at all meant for you and lived a life contrary to your values and dreams.

Someday, somehow, somewhere, somebody is going to fully embrace everything that you are. Those are the few people we want to keep close. They are not just the people that believe in what we do and stand for but most importantly they are the ones that are for us 100%. Even when we are at our worst, they stand by us, walk with us through life and believe in who we are.

You are enough, my friend. Embrace that truth. Own that truth. Carry that truth everywhere you go. Don’t just carry it for yourself either. Share this truth.  Show people this truth and demonstrate it. You and I are enough.