The power of purposeful giving 

Purposeful giving can be light and fun if our focus is on giving what is available and has thought behind it. Each of us has ways of giving that have potential to change lives. Being practical, creative and personal are great things to think about when you are thinking of ways to give. Your own personality and uniqueness is an asset to the giving  process.

Let’s first start with some good questions to get you thinking in a way that generates practicality, creativity and personal flair. Ask yourself questions such as:

  • What am I able to give?
  • What skills can I offer?
  • What is the need(s) of the recipient?
  • What can I learn to give best to my recipient?
  •  What sources outside of myself do I have to help contribute?
  • What opportunities are there to give?

Remember our end goal is to meet the need and want of our recepient. Once we have answered some of these questions we have a good idea of how we are going to meet the need and want of the individual.Purposeful giving goes beyond a nice gesture. It has the power to build a healthy family, relationship, skill or dream. When we have reached this type of giving, we have reached to the level of blessing.

I remember listening to a speaker long ago. In her talk, she said something like “People say “bless you” but they speak empty blessings.” You see a blessing is something that goes beyond words or a simple gesture. A blessing is a true sense of meeting a want and need that forever changes a person. One of my favorite movies to watch is Les Miserables. This movie has such profound truths and gives such a clear picture of what a life that has been truly blessed and changed, looks like.

Against all odds, the main character Jean Valijean who is an ex-convict is shown kindness from the Bishop. After Jean steels from Bishop he is caught and brought to the Bishop. Bishop gives him what he stole and additional items.

Bishop says to Jean “don’t ever forget it, you’ve promised to become a new man. ” Jean says “promise, why are you doing this?” His response “Jean Valijean, my brother You no longer belong to evil with the silver, I bought your soul.  I’ve randsomed you from fear and hatred. Now I give you back to God.”

This story makes me wonder what life would be like if we acted with this kindness towards every human being.  What if we met people with their deepest needs in a healthy way? If after having blessed someone, we leave it at that. No getting even, no strings attached.

I propose we get creative. Every person has the ability to be creative. I can remember a time where I rallied with a group of girls for a mission. There was a family that was in need of food and money for expenses. Not only did this bless their hearts but it caused a stirring for them to do the same and different blessings. It also drew our relationships closer. Our group started becoming like family and gave us all new ideas on how to reach people with love and kindness.

Wondering what blessings to give? Here are just a few favorite suggestions:

  • Volunteer for a charity
  • Grocery giveaways
  • Filling someone’s gas tank (especially appreciated in winter)
  • Helping introduce and welcome new people to the community
  • Letter to a depressed friend
  • Invest in a friends dream or business
  • Giving gift cards to the homeless
  • Buy and bring a coffee to a tiered and overworked mom

When we are willing to bless others, it softens the heart and gives us an appreciation.  Look for opportunities to bless. Don’t forget to look close. Sometimes those who need it most are some people you wouldn’t expect. They may seem perfect but people hide their sufferings and vulnerabilities.

Have an open heart, a gut that guides you in the right direction and a positive attitude with any and all purposeful giving opportunities.

Be blessed and bless others,

❤Coach Dani

How to get inspired and stay inspired

How to get inspired and stay inspired

I want you to think about a time in your life when you felt the most alive and inspired. What was it that sparked those feelings? In our lives we go through times where we are more easily inspired and times where it ican be a struggle. We sometimes have to fight to be inspired.

One step towards being inspired is to think about what you absolutely love doing.  Now create an action plan for it.  It’s not always fun to budget for it or rearrange your schedule to make it work.  However, you need to know that you are a priority.  Do everything possible to schedule “you” time in. Be consistent so that it becomes a natural, healthy habit of yours.

Now we take it a step further. Sometimes we get tiered and bored with the things we use to love. This is where you need to kick it up a notch.  For many years I have loved dancing. Then I went through a phase of feeling like I couldn’t learn anything new. I tried many forms of dance and I wasn’t being challenged enough.

 A friend told me about a new dance that had a lot of variety to it and fit a lot of the qualities I was looking for in my life.  At first I was reluctant.  I didn’t want to give it a fair shot because it was a more difficult dance to learn.  It required more patience and  dedication.  I fell in love with everything about the great West Coast Swing dance….the music, slow and fast moves, various ways of  movement and the low cost for lessons and dance. I was sold! It re-ignited a passion in me and I was inspired.  I not only learned a new dance but I learned a lot about myself and how I relate with others.

We can find those feelings of inspiration through exploring new passions.  Be opened minded to things that are not only healthy for you but are also healthy for those you love.  Don’t dismiss an idea just because it’s hard, time consuming or doesn’t fit your style. Give it all you got and give it a good amount of time to feel out if you like it or not.  Determine if it’s creating good results in your life and for those in your life. This could mean joining a running group or a cooking class.  You never know how you are (with a little supportive group help) until you try.

Having good, wholesome, and all around emotionally, spiritually, physically healthy people in your life is a must.  When we are surrounded by people who are doing something with their life it has the potential to inspire and motivate us.  We may not all have the same passions in life and that’s okay.  It’s important that we allow these types of individuals to speak their wisdom on different passions and be willing to learn fresh perspectives.  This can allow for creativity to burst out of us.