Moving beyond motivation to create and stick to healthy habits

habits over motivation
Model: Me Photographer: Aaron Schomburg

Motivation is great in the fact that it gets us inspired and excited to get going. However, it has its limitations. Motivation is the first step in the process of achieving but it’s not the only step. Equally, if not more important is creating healthy habits. Let me explain the reasons why…

When we create healthy habits we improve our weak areas. We thrive in new areas. We move beyond the idea of doing something to actually doing it. If you did a serious heartfelt inventory on where you fall short what area(s) would that be?

You might be saying no way Dani, it’s too much work and I don’t even know where to start. It’s natural for a person to not want to do the same repetitive cycle over and over again. But what you need to ask yourself is…what’s really important here?

Thriving in new areas can bring us back to motivation. We start making healthy habits a consistent routine and we get to see the positive progress it makes on our life. As a result this can bring us back to motivation.

The freedom in this habit journey, is that you get to choose for yourself. You can chose to live a shallow, meaningless life with little to no positive outcomes or you can chose to live a meaningful, purposeful life with joy and positive impact because you consistently put the time and energy into an amazing outcome.

Hopefully I have convinced you now to start creating healthy habitsūüėČ. Start by making a list of all the healthy and important things you want to start changing.

If you haven’t started tracking your habits, you can download the Habit Tracker I’ve created to help you. Simply go to my blog post “Establishing goals to help you succeed.”

Here is what you need to know and keep telling yourself as you get going on this:

Habits are 100% your responsibility. When we blame others or whatever is hurting our habit process, we need to realize it’s up to us. No one else can take responsibility to make our healthy habits happen. There is no improvement when we excuse ourselves and blame people or things. Click To Tweet You come across a challenge-brainstorm how to fix it in order to make it better.


Our self image predicts whether or not we follow through on doing our habits. How you view yourself and the thoughts you feed yourself, will determine whether you do your habits.

habits over motivation
Model: Me Photographer: Brad Malmgren

You will get restless and want to quit at times. Our brains are wired to protect us and can easily talk us out of something difficult. When this happens and you tell yourself “I don’t want to do it” tell your brain the opposite. Get up and moving right away on doing your habit.

Say no to short term pleasure- things that distract you from your mission. This is a tough one. We live in a world where That is very me focused and very “please me focus.” Discipline is a tough word to put into action. Clear yourself of those things that vie for your attention and don’t contribute to attaining your healthy goals.

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Schedule your habits for a specific time and place. Use your phone as an alarm or reminder notifications so that you don’t forget. Putting a time/place on it will help you get into the routine of doing your habits. Plus it will make it easier on you as you go about your day.

Be blessed and bless others,

‚̧Coach Dani

One favorite way to unwind after a stressful day is to take a bath or shower. I personally love taking baths. Throw some in epsom salt and lavender essential oil into it and it will help calm you down.  Not only soothing but it will help release toxins in your body. Detox baths have been know to strengthen our immune system and prevent disease. All around you can feel the difference emotionally and physically when you take a detox bath.

Set the mood.  Play some light jazz music that has positive messages attached to it.  Remember to light some candles.  This will help you get into the mood of taking a bath, in case you are not a bath person.

Spending time with a good friend is a great way to unwind.  A good friend is a friend that makes us laugh, is trustworthy with our vulnerable life messes and challenges us to keep moving forward. They can help us find clarity through helpful insight.

Friends that give us a new perspective can open our minds to see possibility and opportunity.  They can allow us to vent about our day or push us to go out and have a fun night of adventuring.  Be picky about who you choose to hang out with. Friends that are helpful are essential.

Read a book that encourages, challenges and inspires you.¬† This can be a great way to¬†unwind after a tough day.¬† Reading isn’t for everyone but it should be.¬† There are many health benefits to reading.¬† It has been known to strengthen your memory, helps with your¬†vocabulary and it boosts your mood.

Go to bed early or a reasonable time.  Sometimes in life, what we need most is sleep.   If we can shut off the bad day through sleep that can be helpful for our mental clarity. Having a consistent, set time each night is important because it helps us think with more understanding and clarity. Hopefully, if  you have done any of the things I mentioned above, you will  be in a more relaxed mood and ready for bed.