7 reasons why honesty is important in relationships

Honesty is essential in healthy relationships. It has the power to build, empower and grow relationships. I will be sharing with you, what I believe are 7 reasons why honesty is important in relationships.

Let’s start with the first reason. Honesty builds trust. When we are honest with one another we learn to trust. We don’t have to wonder what is being hidden or kept secret. Naturally we are at ease in our gut because we know the other person cares enough to tell us the truth.

Honesty doesn’t always feel good at the time but we can appreciate it because the person being honest is being vulnerable.  They are taking a chance at trusting you with the truth. These people understand that what they could say, has the potential to hurt the relationship. However, they care about you and want a relationship that is built on the truth.

When a relationship is built on truth it opens the door for growth. Which leads me into the second reason to why honesty is a big deal in relationships. Honesty problem solves.

Anyone who has a successful relationship knows this to be true. When we are in a relationship where two people are allowed to be honest, it gives the relationship a chance to solve problems that come up. Sometimes misunderstandings happen.  When we are honest we can work through the misunderstanding, communicate and solve the issue and be done with it.  Different perspectives can be frustrating.  However, we are all different in our views and can learn how the other person thinks.  Honesty grows the mind and heart.

The third reason honesty is important in relationships is that honesty grows our character. When we are honest we are holding people accountable for their behavior. It challenges us and encourages us to be a better human being. We become a person that thinks about our choices and how they can help or hurt the relationship and the person we care about.

Honesty gives understanding. This is so important because it will all around help us understand our past, present and future.  When we give honesty it doesn’t necessarily reap understanding right away. But when we have enough people telling us the truth it can be a great place to land. From this place we can begin to understand the situation, who we are and what needs to happen to grow each part of our life.

Honesty gives us freedom. We are free to be ourselves, when we find ourselves in relationships were we can be honest. We don’t have to worry about working hard to be accepted or appreciated for who we are. Everything is talked about and shared because we care.  We don’t have to secretly wonder if the other is annoyed or frustrated because we know they care about us enough to be honest with how they feel about us.

Honesty teaches us.  It teaches us many great lessons. It teaches us how to interact with people and choose our words wisely.  Think about it, when a little kid you know says something with an honest heart and it comes out as an insult. They aren’t trying to be mean, well most of them aren’t.  They just say the truth without thinking about how their words are going to effect the other.

The more we practice honesty, the more we learn how to be honest and use modesty with our words. We learn through experiences good and bad with those in our lives what honest words are effective in helping us to grow.

Honesty demonstrates genuine love. Healthy and wholesome families know this to be true. When you love a person, you want to protect them from the evils of the world.  We live in a world that isn’t always kind. Some people (any one who is reading this I bet can think of at least one, probably more) seek pleasure at someone else’s expense.  Those that love best are super honest because seeing them hurt and damaged is the last thing they want for them.





How to be an Incredible Person of Character


Often times we like to think we are the smart ones with all the answers.  Therefore, we should be the ones to talk.  However, people of noble character genuinely listen.  They sit back and seek to understand the other persons perspective.  Then they ask great, proactive questions. Why? Because they care. Which leads me to the next point…


People of character care and they show it in all forms- not just forms that suite them.  They will think outside the box and come up with unique ways to show they care about an individual, cause or people group.  They will execute a plan well thought out that meets the needs and wants of their audience.

Those with Character…

Have Integrity.

Integrity is defined as “being honest and having strong moral principles.”  People of Integrity do what is right.  That means they look beyond their own desires.  They go beyond themselves to look at what is right versus what seems good.  Integrity people are selfless people. They will even sacrifice their own wants and needs to do what is right.

Character people:


They will put themselves in uncomfortable situations in order to speak for the innocent.  They are driven by their compassion for others and are not afraid to take a stand. To advocate for someone shows the heart of a leader with character.

People of Character take Responsibility.

They do not give an excuse for everything.  Instead, they apologize move on to do better and correct their wrongs.  They are reliable and stick to their word.  You don’t have to wonder if they are gonna follow through because they consistently show up and follow through on their commitments.