How processing the past year can help you in the new year

Photo Credit: Jen Webster Model: Myself

The end of the year can be a tad bit emotional. But this doesn’t need to be a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite helpful. We don’t want to stay there for too long of a time but processing through it can give us perspective and clarity on moving forward in the new year.

Here is the process I’m going to be taking you through: Reflection, Regret, React, Retreat and Resonaite. If you’re thinking “wow this sounds challenging and like it could be a more real talk”….it is!  If you want to move forward then you need to get super honest about where you have been and what needs changing.

Reflection

Think about what worked and what didn’t work for you this past year. Read through your journals, ask your kids what they thought mommy did and didn’t do well (in appropriate age level mommy language) and look for other ways to measure how well you did. Reflecting can be a very helpful tool. It can show you what you need to work on and what you need to get rid of. It can also show you how incredible you were and give you confidence in the growing areas of your life. Click To Tweet

Regret

Let’s be totally honest…nobody likes the feeling of regret. Whether it’s something you didn’t do or something you did do and it cost you big time.  Regret proves you have a heart and that you care. The positive side of regret, is that it reminds us of what truly is important to us. Whenever someone has sat in regret, they have thought about what they could have or should have done differently. Regret can be used towards change in the New Year. It can inspire you to change and do things differently.

React 

The past year can leave us reacting. We were made with emotions but we weren’t made to abuse them.  Reactions can make us aware of our current state.  How did you react over the course of this last year?  Did they help you or another person grow or find wholeness?  How you react on a daily basis shows how stable you are.   Your reactions show the condition of your heart.

Retreat

Pulling back isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite a good thing. Sometimes we desperately need to.  Our world is filled with so many distractions and things that vie for our attention.  Too much can overwhelm a person, cause exhaustion and get you lost. When we retreat, we give our self time to breathe, rest and take a step back to recharge.  This gives us  the energy we need for the things and people we love.

Resonate

When you resonate with something, you feel and can sense it without an explanation. Being able to resonate gives you direction. It allows you to feel whether something could be an opportunity for good. I’ve put this as the last step in the process because it is the transition piece. If our state of being is healthy and whole we are able to resonate on the path we are to take.

I no doubt believe you are able to process through and come out even stronger in this new year. You have everything you need to make it a great one. Believe in yourself, stay humble, choose to care for yourself and even more importantly, to love others. You were made to thrive and come out even stronger in this coming year. Now let’s go brave this new year together.

Be blessed and bless others,

❤Coach Dani

 

 

Beautiful and Diverse

Beautiful and Diverse
Models from left to right: Magnolia Lewis-Walker, myself, and Michelle Wang Photographer: John Other Medicine

In diversity there is beauty and there is strength.      -Maya Angelou

I find it encouraging that what makes us beautiful is what makes us diverse.
It is fascinating how every single person on this planet is made different. When you think about that reality doesn’t it make you wonder why we are diverse? It’s like God carried out this amazing plan in creating us and said “great now they can learn from each other.”beauty and diversity

The problem comes, when we become “know it all’s” who are unteachable and unwilling to see in another’s perspective. Our heart can become hard and numb, unable to experience connection. We let our experience, history, society, people, religion and media influence us. This isn’t entirely bad but if we don’t go back to the truth of our identity from God’s (the creator and author) standpoint we can get lost in a bunch of opinions that can appear as facts.

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So what does your Creator say about you and others? Why did he create you and I? Your true purpose, is what makes you incredibly beautiful. The Bible tells us that we were “made in the image of God.” Let that sink it. You and everyone around you were made with that power and greatness. So when it comes to competing and outdoing another person, I have to ask why?

We were all made with the same greatness. The only difference is that we have different looks and strengths. Once you grab ahold of who you truly are, you will begin to see beauty all around you. Your focus wont be just on bettering yourself or your agenda- it will be on helping others achieve their dreams.

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Model: Michelle Wang Photographer: John Other Medicine

A few months ago I did a photoshoot with a couple of friends (pictured in post) who I met through modeling. As I have grown to know them, I find myself inspired by them. For that reason I said “you guys we need to do a photoshoot.” Both completely different looks and personality. Even the way they pose is different and I love it!

Together we were able to get creative and have fun learning from each other.  Our biggest obstacle the day of- the rain. This could have made us quit as a team but it didn’t.

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There are obstacles in diversity. It requires us getting uncomfortable. It requires us not doing something we are use to.  When we allow this in our lives we add to our character and to the character of those we are in communication with. We are able to see the relationship grow and build when we allow ourselves to be uncomfortable for another person.

Beautiful and Diverse
Models from left to right: Nia Yang, Magnolia Lewis-Walker, Cassi Rose, Michelle Wan, Sara Geurts, Myself Photographer: Michaela Rae Photo
A special bond happens when you endure obstacles together. Click To Tweet

Respect, acceptance, love, understanding, depth, honesty, and trust is built. I’m a Christian no doubt but one of my closest friends is not. In fact, I’m a little embarassed to say this  but in the beginning of our friendship we were annoyed by eachother more often then not. We didn’t accept eachothers viewpoints one bit.

I don’t believe that it was a conisidence that she was placed strategically in my life with no way of breaking free from her completely. She would be laughing at this if she were reading this right now. You would think this diversity would cause a rift in our friendship but it has actually made it stronger. We love each other even though our beliefs are diverse.                                                                                                                                       

I believe that we can have unity in diversity and I believe we can see the beauty come from it. The question really is what you choose. What will you choose to believe? What will you choose to act on? It’s really up to you, which is pretty darn freeing. I hope you choose to look at each and every person that’s not like you and say in both word and actions “your beautiful” and truly mean it with your whole heart.

Be blessed & bless others,

Coach Dani