Moving beyond motivation to create and stick to healthy habits

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Model: Me Photographer: Aaron Schomburg

Motivation is great in the fact that it gets us inspired and excited to get going. However, it has its limitations. Motivation is the first step in the process of achieving but it’s not the only step. Equally, if not more important is creating healthy habits. Let me explain the reasons why…

When we create healthy habits we improve our weak areas. We thrive in new areas. We move beyond the idea of doing something to actually doing it. If you did a serious heartfelt inventory on where you fall short what area(s) would that be?

You might be saying no way Dani, it’s too much work and I don’t even know where to start. It’s natural for a person to not want to do the same repetitive cycle over and over again. But what you need to ask yourself is…what’s really important here?

Thriving in new areas can bring us back to motivation. We start making healthy habits a consistent routine and we get to see the positive progress it makes on our life. As a result this can bring us back to motivation.

The freedom in this habit journey, is that you get to choose for yourself. You can chose to live a shallow, meaningless life with little to no positive outcomes or you can chose to live a meaningful, purposeful life with joy and positive impact because you consistently put the time and energy into an amazing outcome.

Hopefully I have convinced you now to start creating healthy habitsūüėČ. Start by making a list of all the healthy and important things you want to start changing.

If you haven’t started tracking your habits, you can download the Habit Tracker I’ve created to help you. Simply go to my blog post “Establishing goals to help you succeed.”

Here is what you need to know and keep telling yourself as you get going on this:

Habits are 100% your responsibility. When we blame others or whatever is hurting our habit process, we need to realize it’s up to us. No one else can take responsibility to make our healthy habits happen. There is no improvement when we excuse ourselves and blame people or things. Click To Tweet You come across a challenge-brainstorm how to fix it in order to make it better.

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Our self image predicts whether or not we follow through on doing our habits. How you view yourself and the thoughts you feed yourself, will determine whether you do your habits.

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Model: Me Photographer: Brad Malmgren

You will get restless and want to quit at times. Our brains are wired to protect us and can easily talk us out of something difficult. When this happens and you tell yourself “I don’t want to do it” tell your brain the opposite. Get up and moving right away on doing your habit.

Say no to short term pleasure- things that distract you from your mission. This is a tough one. We live in a world where That is very me focused and very “please me focus.” Discipline is a tough word to put into action. Clear yourself of those things that vie for your attention and don’t contribute to attaining your healthy goals.

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Schedule your habits for a specific time and place. Use your phone as an alarm or reminder notifications so that you don’t forget. Putting a time/place on it will help you get into the routine of doing your habits. Plus it will make it easier on you as you go about your day.

Be blessed and bless others,

‚̧Coach Dani

Establishing goals to succeed in the new year

Establishing the right goals for you in the new year will take careful consideration. It will require you to get honest with yourself and have some self awareness. Don’t just set a goal that “sounds good” or is “good for you” with no real intention or plan to follow through.¬† You need to be aware of what it is you need and want.¬† There has to be a strong desire and a will to do it.

First, think about what is important for you and to you.  Grab some paper and start brainstorming. Prioritize your list with simple and clear details. If you have subscribed to my email list you will get a free download goal setting sheet to help you. I have also included a weekly goal sheet to help you along the way.

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Answering what is important¬†for you and¬†to¬†you, will give you a sense of direction. If you can’t answer this then it’s time you start putting yourself out there- meet people and take up a hobby or two.

Know your destination
What do you want to accomplish and why? What are you hoping to achieve? If you do not know this, then you need to explore what it is you could possibly want. Know the facts before you take a big leap into embarking on a big goal.  The more you know the easier and clearer it is to get to your destination. Get specific.

Research your destination so that you have an idea of what you need in order to get there. Think about it this way…when you take a trip somewhere you’ve never been, what do you do? You plan, prepare and have back up plans.

The farther the destination, the bigger the chance of getting lost.  Many obstacles can occur in the process as well: your phone service cuts you off so no gps, your car breaks down along the way or your credit card gets declined while at a gas station. Be safe, not sorry.

Know what steps to take

  • Who is going to help you?
  • What are you needing to help you?
  • When are you going to do it?
  • Where are you going to do it?
  • How are you going to do each goal?

All good questions to ask yourself. Write down, as this could be a really helpful thing in the future when you need to reflect. Put each action step in order with specific instructions. You are better than a one step action. Click To Tweet

Create a 2-5  step process, starting from easiest to hardest. Anything more than 5 steps and you may want to quit entirely.  Anything less and you are not challenging yourself enough.

Let’s prioritize now

  • What do you spend the majority of your time doing?
  • ¬†Where does your money go?

Is it moving you to where you want to be in the future? If it’s not then we need to re-prioritize. Get rid of all the unhealthy things that you are prioritizing.

Sometimes we are aware of this and sometimes we aren’t. One or two of our closest trustworthy friends can see things we can’t always see in ourselves.¬† We may think our behavior or actions are normal and even sometimes healthy but that’s where we can deceive ourselves.

Here is an example I’m sure many of you can relate to. You spend numerous hours on social media. Your intentions could be good. You say “I just want to help inspire people.”¬† However the problem comes into play when it consumes.¬† Many of us are completely unaware when we are in addiction mode.

In my case I am an input junkie who loves researching and discovering new creative ways to better myself and people.¬† This isn’t helpful though when instead of creating, I’m consuming.¬† Time is an issue. We can never get it back so how you spend your valuable time is important.

Prioritize what you need to do with an appropriate amount of detail, time and attention.  Block out time to get what you need to do done and clear yourself of distractions which can waste our valuable time.

Monthly Habit Goal Tracker

Track your progress

I’ve included a free pdf that I have made to help you on this journey.¬† There are so many benefits to tracking your goals. For instance, you can look back and get a very clear picture of what specific goals need tweaking.

When you are on a trip, you can get a feeling for where you are at based on tracking.  Same is true for your goals.  Tracking your goals has many benefits.  You can see what needs more focus and less focus.

It can also build your confidence and faith in yourself in this journey.¬† You will become more aware of how far you’ve come and how long it took you. ¬† It can especially be helpful as you continue in the future. You will be able to see the growth through reflecting.

Revise when necessary

Whatever isn’t working, tweak it a little. Give it some thought and attention. Don’t just throw out a good goal right away. There is no rule that says you need to do a specific goal just like everyone else. Click To Tweet You are unique and what works for one person, may not work for you. Tweak it in a way, that you know will move you forward in your goal.

You were made to succeed and you will succeed! Just by reading his post alone you have succeeded. Your knowledge, desire and willpower can move you to incredible heights. I believe in you. Let’s do this!

Be blessed & bless others,

‚̧Coach Dani

 

 

Journaling to benefit your life

Journaling is going to be a life changer for you. I know it has been for me. The more that I have read and researched how amazing it is, I have grown to embrace journaling.

Throughout my post, you will get to see highlights from my bullet journal. I really like this form of journaling for many reasons. It gives you the the flexibility to be creative, make it personal, and use it in a way that is going to benefit your future.

Let’s start by talking about the benefits of journaling…

Journaling reduces stress

Writing allows us to release painful emotions and helps us engage both left and right brain to problem solve.

Makes you smarter
Journaling causes us to grow our vocabulary as we write. We think of new words and meditate on words to use. Journaling has also been shown to increase communication skills. Writing improves your speaking.

Builds Confidence
Journaling allows you to go back to those special times where you were on top of the world, thriving in that positive experience. Click To Tweet You are able to remember and relive it. As a result you gain confidence.

Makes you more mindful
When you write you are actively engaging your thoughts. Writing will allow you to know what sincerely makes you happy and what is really toxic for you. It helps you decipher the good from the bad.

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Journaling helps us reflect, look back and track our patterns. This can be so helpful and eye opening- as sometimes it’s hard to realize where we fall short when we have so much going on in our busy lives.
Now that we have established some of the amazing benefits of journaling I want to give you some direction in the journaling process.

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In my last post “Establishing goals to succeed in the new year” I  talked about goal setting. If you signed up for my email list you should have received a free goal setting pdf. This will help you on your journey in journaling.

Some people don’t always know what to write about or where to start. That is why I have questions to get you thinking. If this doesn’t do it for you, then just start by writing what’s on your heart- what you are passionate about, the direction you would like your life to go, or maybe what you are most grateful for.

Take however long you want 5 minutes, 20 minutes- it’s your call. I have been journaling for years and my journaling time always changes. Sometimes I’m super inspired and can write a lot about a particular subject.  Other days I  have heavy things on my heart to write about that is difficult to put in words.  Don’t put a time limit on it- just start writing and see where it takes you. Now get goingūüėČ

Be blessed & bless others,

‚̧Coach Dani

How processing the past year can help you in the new year

Photo Credit: Jen Webster Model: Myself

The end of the year can be a tad bit emotional. But this doesn’t need to be a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite helpful. We don’t want to stay there for too long of a time but processing through it can give us perspective and clarity on moving forward in the new year.

Here is the process I’m going to be taking you through: Reflection, Regret, React, Retreat and Resonaite. If you’re thinking “wow this sounds challenging and like it could be a more real talk”….it is!¬† If you want to move forward then you need to get super honest about where you have been and what needs changing.

Reflection

Think about what worked and what didn’t work for you this past year. Read through your journals, ask your kids what they thought mommy did and didn’t do well (in appropriate age level mommy language) and look for other ways to measure how well you did. Reflecting can be a very helpful tool. It can show you what you need to work on and what you need to get rid of. It can also show you how incredible you were and give you confidence in the growing areas of your life. Click To Tweet

Regret

Let’s be totally honest…nobody likes the feeling of regret. Whether it’s something you didn’t do or something you did do and it cost you big time.¬† Regret proves you have a heart and that you care. The positive side of regret, is that it reminds us of what truly is important to us. Whenever someone has sat in regret, they have thought about what they could have or should have done differently. Regret can be used towards change in the New Year. It can inspire you to change and do things differently.

React 

The past year can leave us reacting. We were made with emotions but we weren’t made to abuse them.¬† Reactions can make us aware of our current state.¬† How did you react over the course of this last year?¬† Did they help you or another person grow or find wholeness?¬† How you react on a daily basis shows how stable you are. ¬† Your reactions show the condition of your heart.

Retreat

Pulling back isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite a good thing. Sometimes we desperately need to.¬† Our world is filled with so many distractions and things that vie for our attention.¬† Too much can overwhelm a person, cause exhaustion and get you lost. When we retreat, we give our self time to breathe, rest and take a step back to recharge.¬† This gives us¬† the energy we need for the things and people we love.

Resonate

When you resonate with something, you feel and can sense it without an explanation. Being able to resonate gives you direction. It allows you to feel whether something could be an opportunity for good. I’ve put this as the last step in the process because it is the transition piece. If our state of being is healthy and whole we are able to resonate on the path we are to take.

I no doubt believe you are able to process through and come out even stronger in this new year. You have everything you need to make it a great one. Believe in yourself, stay humble, choose to care for yourself and even more importantly, to love others. You were made to thrive and come out even stronger in this coming year. Now let’s go brave this new year together.

Be blessed and bless others,

‚̧Coach Dani

 

 

Beautiful and Diverse

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Models from left to right: Magnolia Lewis-Walker, myself, and Michelle Wang Photographer: John Other Medicine

In diversity there is beauty and there is strength.      -Maya Angelou

I find it encouraging that what makes us beautiful is what makes us diverse.
It is fascinating how every single person on this planet is made different. When you think about that reality doesn’t it make you wonder why we are diverse? It’s like God carried out this amazing plan in creating us and said “great now they can learn from each other.”beauty and diversity

The problem comes, when we become “know it all’s” who are unteachable and unwilling to see in another’s perspective. Our heart can become hard and numb, unable to experience connection. We let our experience, history, society, people, religion and media influence us. This isn’t entirely bad but if we don’t go back to the truth of our identity from God’s (the creator and author) standpoint we can get lost in a bunch of opinions that can appear as facts.

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So what does your Creator say about you and others? Why did he create you and I? Your true purpose, is what makes you incredibly beautiful. The Bible tells us that we were “made in the image of God.” Let that sink it. You and everyone around you were made with that power and greatness. So when it comes to competing and outdoing another person, I have to ask why?

We were all made with the same greatness. The only difference is that we have different looks and strengths. Once you grab ahold of who you truly are, you will begin to see beauty all around you. Your focus wont be just on bettering yourself or your agenda- it will be on helping others achieve their dreams.

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Model: Michelle Wang Photographer: John Other Medicine

A few months ago I did a photoshoot with a couple of friends (pictured in post) who I met through modeling. As I have grown to know them, I find myself inspired by them. For that reason I said “you guys we need to do a photoshoot.” Both completely different looks and personality. Even the way they pose is different and I love it!

Together we were able to get creative and have fun learning from each other.  Our biggest obstacle the day of- the rain. This could have made us quit as a team but it didn’t.

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There are obstacles in diversity. It requires us getting uncomfortable. It requires us not doing something we are use to.  When we allow this in our lives we add to our character and to the character of those we are in communication with. We are able to see the relationship grow and build when we allow ourselves to be uncomfortable for another person.

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Models from left to right: Nia Yang, Magnolia Lewis-Walker, Cassi Rose, Michelle Wan, Sara Geurts, Myself Photographer: Michaela Rae Photo
A special bond happens when you endure obstacles together. Click To Tweet

Respect, acceptance, love, understanding, depth, honesty, and trust is built. I’m a Christian no doubt but one of my closest friends is not. In fact, I’m a little embarassed to say this  but in the beginning of our friendship we were annoyed by eachother more often then not. We didn’t accept eachothers viewpoints one bit.

I don’t believe that it was a conisidence that she was placed strategically in my life with no way of breaking free from her completely. She would be laughing at this if she were reading this right now. You would think this diversity would cause a rift in our friendship but it has actually made it stronger. We love each other even though our beliefs are diverse.                                                                                                                                       

I believe that we can have unity in diversity and I believe we can see the beauty come from it. The question really is what you choose. What will you choose to believe? What will you choose to act on? It’s really up to you, which is pretty darn freeing. I hope you choose to look at each and every person that’s not like you and say in both word and actions “your beautiful” and truly mean it with your whole heart.

Be blessed & bless others,

Coach Dani

 

 

How to Self Care during the holiday season

If you are anything like me, you have tried just about every self care regime you can think of. How to self care during the holiday season takes intentional, consistent motivation and discipline. The more you do self care, you will exercise the discipline of it. Be patient with yourself- this could take time.

So why not start small? No need to overwhelm yourself with all the things you “oughta do” just because people or yourself expect it or because the giving makes you feel good temporarily. We want and need to feel good about ourselves. The giving we do should be an overflow.

How to properly self care:

Take a break. Whatever this may look like to you. This might mean taking a 15 minute power nap. It could mean going for a walk. Make this apart of your routine Рeveryday. Take a break and take a step back from all the noise and distractions.  You are too important not to make yourself a priority.

Give yourself positive affirmations. Go around your house writing positive messages about you, as an encouragement. Grab some post it notes and write down what you need to hear. Say those things out loud and believe them!

A famous motivational speaker once shared that this is what broke her out of the depression she was in. This was in the misdt of her motivational speaking career. You have too much to offer as a one of a kind individual. Don’t just waste your time not caring about yourself. Then as a result not caring or giving your best to you or someone else.

Give after you have received. No it’s not selfish…just in case you were wondering. How do you expect to give if you haven’t first taken the time for yourself? You can’t give something that you don’t have. No fake substitutions help anyone. They just feed other problems.

It’s like if you haven’t taken the time for a full night of sleep- the chances of you acting like a grump are slightly high. That is, unless you are one of those rare types that don’t need much sleep. Your body isn’t fully ready or functioning at your normal speed.

Invest in you.¬†Do something healthy that sets your soul on fire. This could change with time and circumstances. Look for opportunities to invest in your well being. Set up a time to go to the gym or fun workout class. Spend the afternoon reading a good book. An even better option- learn a new dance at the nearest studio. Yep, you active readers know that I have to talk about dancing in almost every blogūüėČ

Whatever gives you joy and makes you feel alive from the inside out, are things that are important. These things need to be put into your schedule.¬† I don’t care how many excuses you have. If you need to completely re-do your schedule to fit in- do it. The people that surround you should care about you and your well being. Ask for support in this journey.

Nobody in this entire world gets to be you. Take full advantage and go be your awesome self. Read, write, dance, laugh, chat, run, walk, relax.

Be blessed and bless others,

‚̧Coach Dani

 

 

Gifts that keep on giving: gifts that bring a family closer together for more than a day

Any National Lampoon Christmas Vacation fans? My family quotes every line in this movie year around. But I would have to disagree with Uncle Eddie’s opinion- jelly of the month it is far from the gift that keeps on giving. So what are the gifts that keep on giving? 

Experience Minded  Gifts. 

These are gifts that the whole family can participate in weekly, monthly or yearly. Observe and remember what the family enjoys doing. Indoor waterpark (picture to prove how much my dad enjoys it belowūüėČ), trampoline park, or ice skating are wonderful ideas. 

You can have each kid open up little gifts that go along with the family deal. It doesn’t have to be expensive. For instance if you buy an indoor waterpark pack- then having kids open up swim toys would be fun. For teenagers, favorite snacks on the drive to the family activity is a great idea. 

An experience could be small and simple.  A gift basket for a game or movie night. Pack in some hot chocolate, blankets and movie or game. 

Fun Lesson Gifts. 

Enroll your child in a sport or activity lesson that teaches them something. Sign them up for swim lessons or cooking or dance classes. I’m a tad partial to giving dance lessons.  Depending on what lessons the family or kids enjoy or could enjoy, this could be a phenomenal gift. If you have a little girl dancer buy her a new tutu, ballet slippers or something related to go along with the lesson. 

Service Oriented Gift.

Offer to babysit a family members kids and give the couple a night out. Buy the couple a gift card to their favorite restaurant or activity.  This can be such a nice break and builds relationships all around.

As the kids babysitter, you can enjoy a fun night out or in. On Christmas, have the kids open gifts that relate to the fun night you have planned. Trust me, the kids will love this. To this day I have an adorable neice who will ask me (with a huge smile on her face) ever time she sees me “Auntie when are you coming to visit me?” It’s the best. 

The time we have with those we love is valuable. Time is something we can never get back. Why not use that time to build on what’s important? Create feelings that bring joy, love and laughter- memories we wont ever forget. Time well spent- this is the gift that keeps on giving.

              Be blessed and bless others, 

                              ‚̧Coach Dani

    

The power of purposeful giving 

Purposeful giving can be light and fun if our focus is on giving what is available and has thought behind it. Each of us has ways of giving that have potential to change lives. Being practical, creative and personal are great things to think about when you are thinking of ways to give. Your own personality and uniqueness is an asset to the giving  process.

Let’s first start with some good questions to get you thinking in a way that generates practicality, creativity and personal flair. Ask yourself questions such as:

  • What am I able to give?
  • What skills can I offer?
  • What is the need(s) of the recipient?
  • What can I learn to give best to my recipient?
  • ¬†What sources outside of myself do I have to help contribute?
  • What opportunities are there to give?

Remember our end goal is to meet the need and want of our recepient. Once we have answered some of these questions we have a good idea of how we are going to meet the need and want of the individual.Purposeful giving goes beyond a nice gesture. It has the power to build a healthy family, relationship, skill or dream. When we have reached this type of giving, we have reached to the level of blessing.

I remember listening to a speaker long ago. In her talk, she said something like “People say “bless you” but they speak empty blessings.” You see a blessing is something that goes beyond words or a simple gesture. A blessing is a true sense of meeting a want and need that forever changes a person.¬†One of my favorite movies to watch is Les Miserables. This movie has such profound truths and gives such a clear picture of what a life that has been truly blessed and changed, looks like.

Against all odds, the main character Jean Valijean who is an ex-convict is shown kindness from the Bishop. After Jean steels from Bishop he is caught and brought to the Bishop. Bishop gives him what he stole and additional items.

Bishop says to Jean “don’t ever forget it, you’ve promised to become a new man. ” Jean says “promise, why are you doing this?” His response “Jean Valijean, my brother You no longer belong to evil with the silver, I bought your soul.¬† I’ve randsomed you from fear and hatred. Now I give you back to God.”

This story makes me wonder what life would be like if we acted with this kindness towards every human being.  What if we met people with their deepest needs in a healthy way? If after having blessed someone, we leave it at that. No getting even, no strings attached.

I propose we get creative. Every person has the ability to be creative. I can remember a time where I rallied with a group of girls for a mission. There was a family that was in need of food and money for expenses. Not only did this bless their hearts but it caused a stirring for them to do the same and different blessings. It also drew our relationships closer. Our group started becoming like family and gave us all new ideas on how to reach people with love and kindness.

Wondering what blessings to give? Here are just a few favorite suggestions:

  • Volunteer for a charity
  • Grocery giveaways
  • Filling someone’s gas tank (especially appreciated in winter)
  • Helping introduce and welcome new people to the community
  • Letter to a depressed friend
  • Invest in a friends dream or business
  • Giving gift cards to the homeless
  • Buy and bring a coffee to a tiered and overworked mom

When we are willing to bless others, it softens the heart and gives us an appreciation.¬† Look for opportunities to bless. Don’t forget to look close. Sometimes those who need it most are some people you wouldn’t expect. They may seem perfect but people hide their sufferings and vulnerabilities.

Have an open heart, a gut that guides you in the right direction and a positive attitude with any and all purposeful giving opportunities.

Be blessed and bless others,

‚̧Coach Dani

21 days of Thanks: why 21 matters

We could all use a big, fat thankful heart. For this reason, I have made it my goal to research gratitude- why it matters and how to implement it so that it becomes apart of us every day. Being thankful is a process not an event.

It’s no surprise that we all go through tough seasons in life and it can be a struggle to find something to be grateful for. We experience painful things that take a toll on us and put us in a state of negative thoughts and behaviors. This can be paralyzing if you don’t look at what there is to be grateful for.

I have entitled this message 21 days of Thanks: why 21 matters” for a couple of reasons…

  1. 21 days has been proven to be a start where changes and new behaviors and habits start to form. This is not to say that it will automatically just happen after 21 days. Research has proven that on average it takes more than 2 months for a new behavior to become a habit.
  2. 21 days is a doable goal. When we focus on a number that isn’t too big and scary then we are able to commit to the process. It is my hope that you continue this journey with me and are encouraged/motivated to keep going, even if you have a bad day, or two or threeūüėČ

If you happen to miss a day, don’t feel bad. Pick yourself up and remind yourself you can do this.

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Now if you’re wondering whether or not you want to embark on this journey, I have a few encouraging facts. Being grateful has many proven benefits. Studies show that gratitude can do the following:

  • Improve health
  • Increase happiness and reduce depression
  • Reduces toxic emotions
  • Improves self esteem and mental strength
  • Improves quality of sleep
  • Promotes optimism
  • Have a more positive outlook

In addition to this list, gratitude reduces entitlement and makes us more giving.

Now that we have established why and how being grateful matters, I would like to leave you with some ways to start putting it into practice. For the next 21 days (minimum and please go longer) you will keep a gratitude journal.

  • List one thing every day of the week that you are grateful for. You can write why or meditate on it throughout the day.

Another great idea I’ve heard done before is to create a gratitude jar. This can look many different ways…

  • ¬†Fill it with money everytime you think of something you are grateful for. Then at the end of the day/week/month (however long it takes you to fill it) give it to a family in need.
  • Another option is to write down something you are grateful for with your family. Each of you will take a turn reading them on a family night at the end of the day/week/month.

I’m incredibly grateful to do this with you. We were made to encourage, inspire and motivate each other to even more greatness. Joy, impact, meaning, purpose- these are words you thought you knew. We are going to seek to understand on a deeper level in the journey ahead. Prepare yourself, the journey ahead is about to get really good. Adventure here we come.

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What you need “to do” today to help you succeed

photo by Diana Kinkor photography

An interesting thing happened to me recently.¬† I took out my “to do” dry erase board. It’s been awhile since I used it- many, many months. I was excited to erase my old “to dos” still listed on the board. Only thing was that they would not erase. Instead they were ingrained in my board.

Most of the to do’s I had listed were written way down on the tale end of my list. It’s a no brainer that these were my things to do that were “less important” and “less fun.” Those things now are no longer relevant and missed opportunities.¬† I took this mess and used it as a lesson on what to do and not do.

As a result, I have created a step by step process to help you conquer your to do list…

1.¬†Grab a sheet of paper. Write down every task you can think of that needs to be done. Don’t worry about order or making it “look pretty” yet- just write. Get specific and condense. Write words that are going to help you remember specially what you need to do for that task.¬† Condense those words so that it’s not overwhelming and you utilize time and energy to read it before doing it.

2.Put each task in order of importance.¬†This way you push yourself to take care of the pressing needs. Think about what is a pressing need that is going to be a process and take a long time to complete. You need to think ahead so that you can do your work great.¬† If you know that what you need to do is going to require lots of time and energy- start that task now. Who are the people affected by this task? If it’s a large sum or it affects those closest to you that you interact with daily then chances are it’s important. It needs to be put on the top of your to do list.

3. Put a reasonable deadline on each task.¬† Sometimes if it is a new task, never been done before this can be tricky. Let’s be realistic and decisive.¬† How long has it taken someone else to complete? Ask these types of questions to people you know and let this be a guide to helping you put a deadline on your task(s). You can also research to come up with an idea of what a proper amount of time is feasible. Decide on a deadline and stick to it.

4. Do each task. You can personalize this one.  We all have our certain tasks we know we need to do but we hate doing. You can personalize your task to get it done. For instance, if your task is to get up by 6 am to hit the gym- drink a cup of coffee to wake you up or meet up with a friend at the gym as a way to get motivated and follow through.

Stay disciplined¬† with every step so that you create the habit of doing your “to dos.” I believe in you wholeheartedly. If you get off track pick yourself up, tell yourself over and over “I can do this” and go be incredible.